Sermon preached November 23, 2014
Text: Matthew
25:1-13
The
Beatles, “The Long and Winding Road” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LneBIOa9B8s
O.K. You would have expected this song from me
today. No surprises. I bet you would have been surprised, though,
had I taken the advice of some of my colleagues and friends and posted on our
sign outside, “Pastor David and the Ten Virgins.” A group I meet with weekly sometimes asks me
what’s on my sign, and they kiddingly suggested that with this week’s text, I
could post that. I replied that this
would be too edgy even for me.
So
what about this story about the ten bridesmaids, or, more accurately in the
Greek, the ten virgins? Maybe a good
beginning place to think about the story is with the words of Frederick
Buechner about the stories of Jesus. It is too bad we know Jesus’ stories so
well, or think we do. We have read them
so often and heard them expounded in so many sermons that we have all but lost
the capacity for hearing them even, let alone for hearing what they are really
about. (Frederick Buechner web page)
So
let’s see if we can hear this story in some fresh ways. Let’s see if it can speak to our hearts, our
lives.
The
outline of the story is familiar enough.
We have ten bridesmaids, or ten virgins.
It may have been the custom of the day that bridesmaids were virgins
–and, frankly, I am not sure I want to say any more about that. Actually, we are not very certain of how much
of this story reflects wedding customs of the time. Anyway, five of the bridesmaids are foolish
and five are wise. In many weddings I’ve
attended, if you can get half the wedding party to act wisely instead of
foolishly, you are not doing too badly.
So these bridesmaids need to take oil lamps with them, and the wise ones
take an extra flask of oil, while the foolish ones don’t. Things get long. They all fall asleep. The bridegroom finally arrives. The foolish bridesmaids discover they are
running out of oil, and ask to borrow some from the wise bridesmaids, but the
wise bridesmaids know they don’t have enough to share – otherwise none of the
lamps will stay lit long enough. The
foolish bridesmaids head out to the all-night lamp oil store, but arrive to the
wedding banquet after the doors are closed.
How awful, first they had to buy new dresses that they will only wear
once, and then they had to buy oil, and now they can’t get into the
banquet. The ending lines are rather
cryptic. “I do not know you.” How can that be? “Keep awake” – but they all slept.
So
what’s this story about? It is about the
long and winding road of life. It is
about missed opportunities. It is about
readiness. It is about responsibility.
The
story is about missed opportunities. It
ends on a sad note. Five young women who
had been planning on attending a wedding banquet are left out. The truth about life is that we cannot go
backwards, only forwards, and the truth about life is that sometimes we miss
opportunities.
When
I was younger, I did not take music lessons.
I did not learn to play an instrument.
When I share songs from my i pod – that’s my musical gift. I do sing, and sang in choirs quite a lot
when I was in school, but I never learned to play an instrument. I wish I had.
While it is never too late to begin, I will never make-up for time lost
if I do decide one day to play something.
One
other thing I did not do when I was younger was learn a foreign language. Along the way I have had to do some work in
foreign language. I did some rudimentary
work in Hebrew and Greek in seminary, but if you were to hand me a Bible in
Hebrew and Greek, I could not read most of it.
For my Ph.D. I had to pass reading exams in German and French. I can make a bit out of such texts now, but I
could not make my way in either of those languages day to day. With a more multi-cultural world, I wish I
had taken advantage of the opportunity to learn another language when I was
younger.
On
the long and winding road of life, there are opportunities to do good that we
miss. Inevitably, we cannot do all the
good that needs to be done in the world, but here I am talking about
opportunities that we might well take easy advantage of, but don’t – the small
courtesy we might offer, the friendly hello we might give, the encouraging
word. Sometimes we are too preoccupied
with our own stuff, and sometimes that’s o.k., but not all the time.
We
will miss opportunities to learn and grow and do good on the long and winding
road of life, but we want to be ready to make the most of as many opportunities
for learning and growing and doing good as we can.
One
way we can be ready is with a little help from our friends. It must be “the Beatles’ day here! It should disturb us, a little that in this
story wisdom seems on the side of not sharing.
Someone has said they are really glad that this isn’t the only parable
Jesus tells about the Kingdom of God, and I agree. Here the wise bridesmaids don’t share their
oil. There may be times when that is the
only way forward, the only way to make the best of a difficult situation, but
more often than not, we need to be there for each other.
Sometimes
we miss opportunities for learning and growth because we lack confidence. We need others to help give us some
encouragement. Sometimes we don’t reach
out to others because we have lost our sense that it makes a difference. We need others to help remind us of our
power, our strength, of that fact that God works through us – yes, even
us. We are in this faith thing
together. God has brought us together so
we can help each other be ready when opportunities for learning and growth and
doing good present themselves.
Yet,
there is also a truth in saying that there are some things no one else can do
for us. I recall an episode from
Seinfeld where George has lost his job and is pondering with Jerry, his career
options. He could do something in
sports, like be the general manager of a baseball team, or be a sports color
commentator – except he has not training in broadcasting. He likes movies, perhaps he could be a
projectionist, except he doesn’t know how to run the projector. No one could do the things George needed to
do to get him ready for these careers.
He would have had to do them for himself. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2LCggmsCXk4)
I
remember as a boy that my dad had records by the Kingston Trio. The Kingston Trio was a folk singing group
from the late 1950 to the mid 1960s, and one of their popular songs was called
“The Rev. Mr. Black.” The chorus of the
song was, “You got to walk that lonesome valley, you got to walk it by
yourself, oh, nobody else can walk it for you, you got to walk it by yourself.
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0lYDkAfViw) Finally, there are some things that no one
else can do for us. As a student you can
copy someone’s homework, but no one else can learn for you. Much as I wish it were possible, no one can
exercise for us, we have to do that for ourselves. We can pray for each other, but we really cannot
pray instead of someone else – that is, the growth that happens with prayer
cannot be shared. In Romans 12, in The Message, we are encouraged to “keep
yourselves fueled and aflame,” and there are some things only we can do to make
it so.
Only
we can do some of the things that need to be done to ready us for learning,
growth and doing good. There are certain
kinds of oil that really cannot be shared.
This
is the Sunday before Thanksgiving, a time for gratitude. I am grateful for moments in my life when I
have been ready to learn, to grow, to do good, to see beauty, to create beauty,
to love.
I am grateful to
getting help from my friends along the way, help in being ready to learn and
grow and love and give. My family has
been a tremendous help to me, and it is such a joy for me that they are all
here this morning. You, my faith family,
have helped me learn and grow in countless ways. Thank you.
I am grateful for
the grace of God. Today’s story is a
story Jesus tells about the Kingdom of God, but it is not the only story Jesus
tells, nor is it all the Bible has to say about God. I don’t think God really ever gets to a point
where the doors are shut and God says, “who are you?” Rather, God is a God who speaks the words in
Isaiah 43: I have called you by name, you
are mine. When you pass through the
waters I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm
you; when you walk through fire shall not be burned, and the flame shall not
consume you…. I am the Lord your
God…. You are precious in my sight, and
honored, and I love you.
On the long and
winding road of life, there will be times when a door will be shut, when we
will lack the resources needed to make the most of an opportunity to learn or
grow or do good. Then I think God in
grace comes looking for us, puts an arm around us, and shows us where we can
find some oil for our lamps so we can once again become fueled and aflame. For that, I am grateful, and in gratitude I
want to go share a little of that light with others. Amen.